Living in the UK has been an enriching experience for me, full of lessons, one of which was the importance of being a good listener. This might seem like a simple or even obvious skill, but I have come to understand that true listening is far more than just hearing someone speak. It is an active, intentional, and respectful process that fosters better communication, deeper understanding, and stronger relationships.
British culture subtly emphasises polite conversations and turn-taking. I observed how people allowed each other to finish speaking, acknowledged what was said, and avoided interruptions. This made me more mindful of how I engaged in conversations.
Coming from a background where conversations often involved interruptions, raised voices, and all parties listening not to understand but to prove a point, I had to adjust. I often remind my team back home during our conversations to let me finish speaking first to avoid chaos and miscommunication. Otherwise, I would simply cut the call and call back when you’re ready to listen and communicate better.
Being a good listener means giving people space to express themselves without interruption, judgment, or assumptions. Those who listened carefully often contributed the most meaningful responses. They asked thoughtful questions, acknowledged others’ points of view, and brought a sense of calm and clarity to conversations.
Interacting with thoughtful listeners, those who paused, reflected and responded with intentions, made me understand and appreciate the importance of listening. I no longer rush to air my view, I focus on relevant points and share them intentionally.
Listening also deepened my social connections. Whether comforting a friend or simply being present for someone, I learned that empathy and attention often matter more than advice. A good listener builds trust, shows care, and creates emotional value.
I implore you all, especially children and young people, to be better listeners. Whether you’re talking with your parents, teachers, or friends, master the skills of listening. Be a Good Listener.
Look at the person speaking. It shows you care and helps you focus.
Don’t interrupt. Wait your turn, it means you’re really listening.
Use your body to show you’re listening, nod, smile, or say “Okay.”
Ask questions if you’re confused. It shows you’re paying attention.
Put distractions away, no phones or wandering eyes.
Listen with kindness. Even if you disagree, hear them out first.
Good listening builds friendships, solves problems, and shows respect. It’s a skill anyone can grow.
In conclusion, in a world where everyone wants to be heard, being the one who listens is a rare and valuable strength. I carry this lesson with me now, wherever I go, and I hope to inspire others, especially young people, to do the same.
✍️ Amara Ann Unachukwu
