Once upon a time, I lived in a busy city and did the same things every day. I had a job, followed the rules, and tried to be kind and careful. People liked me because I was always the same, calm, polite, and never caused trouble. But inside, I felt like something was missing. I didn’t know what, but I felt a little lost.
Then one day, one encounter changed everything.
A client said something passively but it stuck. He said, “Sometimes we’re wearing someone else’s glasses and wondering why everything looks wrong.”
That sentence hit me hard. It made me think, was I seeing life through someone else’s ideas? Was I living how others wanted me to, instead of how I really wanted?
After that, I started to notice things I hadn’t before. I saw how I made my dreams smaller so others would feel okay. I saw how I said yes even when my heart wanted to say no. I was scared to take chances, even when something inside me wanted more.
But awareness once awakened, was impossible to unsee.
Bit by bit, my lens changed. I started saying no when I needed to. I spoke up more, not to impress, but to contribute authentically. I started writing again, something I had loved but stopped doing. Life started to feel brighter, more exciting.
People noticed the difference. Some liked the new me. Some didn’t. And that was okay.
I didn’t try to be better than anyone. I only tried to be me. And being myself, truly myself, was powerful. Opportunities that once seemed locked behind invisible doors suddenly opened. I didn’t strive for a higher status, I simply became someone aligned with myself and things began to fall in place. That alignment gave me presence, and that presence became a quiet form of power.
Here’s a message to every child or young person feeling lost in the journey of self-awareness, shift from Conformity to Consciousness.
Pay attention to what feels right inside. Sometimes one small sentence or moment can change everything.
Ask yourself:
Am I being me, or just trying to fit in?
You don’t need to be loud to be strong. The quiet truth is powerful too.
It’s okay to say no. You’re allowed to protect your energy and dreams.
Not everyone will understand your changes. Grow anyway.
Do what you love. That’s where your light lives.
You don’t have to have it all figured out. Just take one honest step at a time.
The more real you become, the more life starts to feel like it really belongs to you.
✍️ Amara Ann Unachukwu
